The MC then usually announces that the speeches are about to commence:

  •  “Ladies and Gentlemen, the speeches and toasts will begin in five minutes, so if there is something that you have to attend to (urgently), or if you need to powder your nose or go for a quick walk, now would be the best time.” (Again, personalise at your leisure!)

It is standard practice to deliver the speeches whilst coffee is being served though this can vary. They are usually presented in the order shown ahead.

The MC may commence proceedings with something like:

“Ladies and Gentlemen, we have come to the formal part of the celebrations and accordingly, we will have a few short speeches and toasts.”


“Ladies and Gentlemen, it’s now time for that formal part of the evening.  For some of the speakers, it may be their first…and last…public speech.  In any case, I’m sure you’ll applaud their brave venture into public speaking.”

“The first toast tonight, and what may be considered the most important, is the toast to the Bride and Groom and this honour and responsibility falls well on the shoulders of the Father of the Bride, (name).

The order of wedding speeches is generally as follows.

SPEECH 1: Toast to the Bride and Groom

SPEECH 2: Groom Replies

SPEECH 3: Groom then toasts the bridesmaids

SPEECH 4: Best man replies on behalf of the bridesmaids

SPEECH 5 : Toast to the parents of the Bride

SPEECH 6 : Bride’s father replies

SPEECH 7 : Toast to Groom’s parents

SPEECH 8 : Groom’s father replies

When managing the speeches, be sure to thank each person for their contribution and introduce each upcoming speaker.


MC INTRODUCTION: “And now comes the cutting of that beautiful cake (find out who made it and announce that).  So I’d like…(bride)…and…(groom)…to walk around to the front of the bridal table to perform their first duty as husband and wife.”

As they approach the cake, make a comment about the event. For example,  “One of life’s tragedies is that we actually have to cut up this beautiful piece of art…but it would be a greater tragedy if we left it uneaten…”

DJ MUSIC : Whilst the cake is being cut, the DJ should play the requested song or (if they have not requested a song) something romantic along the lines of:

Truly, Madly, Deeply – Savage Garden

I Got You Babe – Sonny & Cher

For Once in My Life – Stevie Wonder

I Can’t Help Myself (Sugar Pie, Honey Bunch) – Jessica Mauboy

Wanna Grow Old with You – Adam Sandler

Marry You – Bruno Mars

It Had to Be You – Harry Connick, Jr. (band/vocalist)

L-O-V-E – Nat King Cole

Endless Love – ‪Luther Vandross‪ & Mariah Carey

By Your Side – Sade

Tonight, I celebrate my love – Roberta Flack And Peabo Bryson

Three times a lady – Lionel Richie

We’ve only just begun – The Carpenters

Love me tender – Elvis Prestley

Sugar, Sugar – The Archies

Chapel of Love – The Dixie Cups

Pour Some Sugar on Me – Def Leppard

Hit Me With Your Best Shot – Pat Benatar (80s) also there’s a new Glee version out

Theme from The Good, the Bad and the Ugly – Ennio Morricone (soundtracks)

Remember to announce the photo opportunity posed by the cutting of the cake:

“Ladies and Gentlemen…now would be a great opportunity for photos – a once and only chance to capture the special moment of (bride and groom) cutting their wedding cake.” (check with the photographer before announcing this)

“I now think it is appropriate that (bride) and (groom) kiss each other.”

(following the nervous kiss)… “Oh, that wasn’t a kiss, that was a peck – I SAID A KISS.”

Ask for a round of applause after the cutting of the cake.  If relevant, say the following to the Bride and Groom:

“On the table, you will find two Goblets with your names engraved on them. If you’d be so kind as to link arms and drink to your future; again, this would be a good time to warm up your cameras.”

Usually, at this point, the cake is taken away to be sliced.



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17 thoughts on “THE WEDDING RECEPTION – Speeches and Cake”

    1. This style of speech is very good where there is a toast to the bride and groom even to their parent.
      In my area this is fading out with fund raising taking its place. Formerly it was something like that.
      If I had an opportunity I’ll go by this thank you.

  1. Wooow !! This couldn’t have come at a better time as I will be the emcee at a wedding reception on the 27 Feb 2021. I thats been an eye opener and has sharpened my skills as an emcee . . I really enjoyed the education
    Thank you and God bless.

  2. Wooow!! This couldnt have come at a better time…as i will be emcee on 27 Feb 2021. You have taught me a lot and has sharpened my skills as an emcee. I really enjoyed it.

    Thank you
    God bless

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  8. The speeches and cake at the wedding reception were an absolute delight. The MC’s announcement, laced with humor and personalization, set a relaxed and enjoyable atmosphere for what was to come. The order in which the speeches were presented was well thought out, keeping the guests engaged throughout. As coffee was served, the speakers took their turns, sharing heartfelt and entertaining stories. The MC’s introduction was impeccable, gracefully transitioning into the formal part of the celebrations. Overall, the speeches and toasts were a perfect blend of emotion and joy, leaving a lasting impression on everyone present. It was a truly memorable experience.

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